My husband and I have discussed fashion trends lately. I see how caught up in fashion some women become and it surprises me. I'm not talking about being aware of the trends, looking good, and wearing up-to-date fashions. I'm talking obsessed, can not wear something if it's not the newest trend. I'm referring to those who can't wear flats because apparently heels are in, who are the first to wear new trends, regardless of how incredibly weird they might be or how bad they look on them.
I understand it a lot more among teenagers who are still discovering who they are, and who live in a world where fashion and acceptance are deeply intertwined. I used to be one of them. I remember it well. Recently on a shopping trip however, as I admired the latest trends I noticed something deeply different about me. I loved some outfits, I appreciated the quality of the clothing and yet I also rejected some things I saw in the windows. It didn't matter to me if that was the hottest new trend or not. I knew I would never wear it.
I used to have to do my hair and makeup every day. I used to never leave the house without mascara, I even had to swim with water-proof mascara, and I gawked at the girls who had the audacity to wear work-out clothes in public. How could they? How dare they? Deep down I honestly was envious of them. Deep down, I didn't feel pretty enough to not dress up. It wasn't that I didn't think I was pretty. Just not pretty enough. I had to look good all of the time.
I think the change in how I saw myself began as a missionary for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I didn't have the time every morning to get my hair just so. I didn't have the time to fix my hair or make up and I definitely didn't have time to shop for the latest fashion, the cutest dress, or the most adorable shoes. I looked in the mirror so much less, but I felt so much better about myself.
More years of experience, marriage and motherhood have made me even wiser. I am pretty enough to not dress up all of the time. I am pretty enough to not to have perfect hair every day. I don't really look THAT bad, and on top of it it doesn't matter AS much anymore. I am beautiful, but I don't feel the need to prove it by looking like a super model.
Don't misunderstand me. I still like to get dressed up, do my hair and make-up and look beautiful. But I don't NEED to do it in order to make myself feel beautiful.
"Femininity is not just lipstick, stylish hairdos, and trendy clothes. It is the divine adornment of humanity. It finds expression in your qualities of your capacity to love, your spirituality, delicacy, radiance, sensitivity, creativity, charm, graciousness, gentleness, dignity, and quiet strength. It is manifest differently in each girl or woman, but each of you possesses it. Femininity is part of your inner beauty." -James E. Faust
You can download the quote "Everything has Beauty. Not everyone can see it." as a Silhouette cut file (for PERSONAL USE ONLY) HERE. I will show you how I'm using this file later on this week!